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Friday, March 11, 2016
from: Mary Ann Kropp
email: gmkropp at comcast.net
comments: Kate:

Happy 68th birthday!!! Where did the time go???
I miss you so very much. A lot has happened this
past year. I'm sure you know I lost Glenn March 5,
2015 - but on the brighter side, you have a
beautiful grandson, Lucas John. You have three
beautiful grandchildren. I think of you every day.
Have a 'Heavenly' birthday, and I hope you and
Glenn celebrate. Party On!!! Love, Mary
Saturday, April 5, 2014
from: lauren
comments: Kate, I think of you often with the warmest heart. Your family is welcoming, caring and loving as you brought them up to be. Your son makes me the happiest I've ever felt in my life. I've had the pleasure of meeting your granddaughters - they are bright, beautiful and full of excitement. Be proud. You've brought positivity, progress, life, love and happiness into the world. I feel beyond fortunate to know your family. Thank you, xo.
Thursday, March 20, 2014
from: Paula Christensen
email: chrispr at maqs.net
comments: Happy Belated Birthday dear Kate, from little Thrushie and Farley Granger, the Forest Ranger. As usual, I am late, wanted this to be on your birthday, but life entered in. I miss you so much, but the memories keep me smiling.
Love you.
Paula, and Ralph
Wednesday, March 12, 2014
from: mike
email: mike at hoho.com
comments: Happy birthday, Mom. We are all together and thinking of you.
Friday, April 5, 2013
from: mary ann kropp
email: gmkropp at comcast.net
comments: April 5,2013

Kate - It's been a long nine years since you left
us. Please know I love you and miss you so very

Love, Mary
Friday, April 5, 2013
from: mary ann kropp
email: gmkropp at comcast.net
comments: April 5,2013

Kate - It's been a long nine years since you left
us. Please know I love you and miss you so very

Love, Mary
Tuesday, March 12, 2013
from: mary ann kropp
email: gmkropp at comcast.net
Happy 65th birthday Kate. Love you and miss
you very much. I'm sure you and Marble
celebrated. Party on Kate, party on. Mary
Monday, March 11, 2013
from: John Wakerly
comments: I remember when Kate was ill, she told me how she was one person who would *love* to turn 65. Alas, it was not to be. Sigh.
Monday, March 11, 2013
from: mike
comments: Happy Birthday, mom! We miss you as always.
Sunday, March 11, 2012
from: mary ann kropp
email: gmkropp at comcast.net
comments: Happy 64th Birthday Kate:

Thinking of you especially today and I miss you
so very much. So many things have happened
'down here', but I know I don't have to tell you
about them, you already know. However, we
certainly could use some divine interception.
Again, Happy 64th and party on honey, party on.

Your loving sister, Mary
Saturday, February 25, 2012
from: Kim Bikle
email: kimbikle at hotmail.com
comments: I think of you often.
Tuesday, April 5, 2011
from: mary ann kropp
email: gmkropp at comcast.net
comments: April 5, 2011

Dearest Kate:

Another year has passed, and we miss you so very
much. It all seems so unreal. You have another
beautiful granddaughter, but I know you already
know that. Wish you were with us, but you are in
our thoughts every single day. Love you always,
Friday, March 11, 2011
from: mary ann kropp
Happy Birthday Kate. Hard to believe MY baby
sister is 63 years old today. Where did the years go?
I'm sure you know you have another beautiful
granddaughter - Lily Nicole.

I miss you so very much. Thanks for the
memories. Again, Happy Birthday!

Your sister Mary xoxox
Friday, April 23, 2010
from: Terry (LIndt) Miller
comments: Thinking about Kate a lot lately and only now realized it's because it's been six years. I remember her birthday better, but mostly her self. A great woman and a great friend. Hope all in the family are well; I know you still miss Kate. Who wouldn't? Such a wonderful woman.
Tuesday, April 6, 2010
from: mary ann kropp
comments: April 5, 2010

Dearest Kate: I have a prayer card that reads "Our
loved ones only go from us to God - and God is very
near". I find some consolation in that, but I/we miss
you so very much. To me it's like a bad dream, so
very hard to believe. Today is your sixth anniversary -
Kate, you will always be remembered and loved.
Your sister, Mary
Monday, April 5, 2010
from: mike
comments: Though it has been six years since we lost you, it feels like only moments ago that you teaching, loving, and looking out for us. I miss you dearly, but your legacy has never left. With much love, mike.
Monday, April 5, 2010
from: John Wakerly
comments: Thinking of Kate, six years after she left us. It is once again a Monday, though Easter was a week earlier this year.

The family has experienced some changes -- some troubles and many good -- and most of "Kate's Causes" continue to prosper, including the Day Worker Center, which will soon break ground on their own building. She would be proud of and delighted with the progress on all fronts. Some things are comfortingly the same -- Grampa's jokes (living on especially in Gina and Mike), Dad's stomach, Mike's cockatiel, Gramma's penny-pinching, Mary and Glenn, "D the K", many friends, skjoda, skjoda!

Thursday, March 18, 2010
from: Susie
email: swakerly at gmail.com
comments: Thinking of you on the week of your birthday. I learned a tiny bit of Polish from some people at work in your memory! I'm also learning Spanish so I can help immigrants and non-English speaking residents on the East Coast eat and live healthier, in the spirit of the Day Worker Center. Happy Birthday! :-)
Tuesday, May 12, 2009
from: Sally Lieber
email: sally at sallylieber.org
comments: Kate:
Council approved the Conditional Use Permit for a permanent day worker center tonight and your absence was noted.
With love and thanks,
P.S.: Yes, the reporters from the Voice were there. :-)
Sunday, April 5, 2009
from: Mary Ann Kropp
comments: Dear Kate:

Though years may pass
A memory stays
Reminding us of happier days

And so today on the 5th anniversary of your passing, I am thinking of all the memories I have.
So much has happened this past year, but I know you know all about it. I'm also sure you know how
much all of us miss and love you. Life goes on, but
it is not the same and it will never be the same.
Love you and miss you. Your sister Mary
Wednesday, March 11, 2009
from: mike
comments: dear mom; happy birthday. you've given me so much to smile about, but i'll not stop missing yours. nostrovia, ein prosit; love mike.
Wednesday, March 11, 2009
from: Mary Ann Kropp
email: gmkropp at comcast.net
comments: Happy 61st birthday, Kate. You are in our thoughts
every day, but especially today on your very
special day. Oh, how we would party today, we both liked to do that, and so tonite at dinner we
will drink a toast to you and sing Happy Birthday.
I know you will hear it - they hear everything in
Heaven. Miss you very much. Love always, your
sister Mary.
Wednesday, March 11, 2009
from: Gina
comments: Happy 61st birthday, Mom! A lot has happened and changed in all of our lives in the past year, but one thing hasn't - we still miss you and wish you were here to celebrate! Thanks for looking out for us and loving us always. I know you are still present in our lives to this day.
Wednesday, March 11, 2009
from: Susie Wakerly
comments: Happy Birthday! Today would have been your 61st.
Saturday, April 5, 2008
from: Susie Wakerly
email: swakerly at gmail.com
comments: Congratulations on the successes of the Day Worker Center. Your guidance lives on, helping others to realize how important the DWC is to workers and communities!
Tuesday, March 11, 2008
from: Gina
comments: Dear Mom,

Today we enjoyed some birthday treats in your honor. I wish you were here so we could celebrate with you.

I'm reminded of an old song you used to sing, in your zany (and irresistibly off-key!) way. The lyrics went like this: "What good is sitting alone in your room? Come hear the music play. Life is a Cabaret, old chum, Come to the Cabaret."

Mom, you truly lived with joy and appreciation for every day. May all of us follow your example and embrace each day with enthusiasm and an uplifted spirit!
Tuesday, March 11, 2008
from: Suz
comments: Today Mom would have been 60, and would have wanted a grand, fun celebration. Italian and Polish food, wine, scrabble, and Wheel of Fish! "Nostrovia"! "Ein Prozit" would be the celebratory cheers.

I think today and in the coming days we can all try to emulate her by staying positive despite things that are worrisome in our lives, finding ways to reach out into our communities, enjoying cultural events, exercising (I think she could lift much more than I could during her days at the YMCA), and putting other people first.
Tuesday, March 11, 2008
from: John Wakerly
comments: Kate would have been 60 today. In her last years, even though battling cancer, she was so optimistic and she frequently said that she was *looking forward* to being 60. Sadly it was not to be -- and I was so looking forward to saying "Nyah-na-nyah, you're 60 and I'm still in my 'mid-50s'."

Now the joke's on me -- I'll be 60 next year, while our memories of Kate as an energetic, younger woman will still live on -- and she did so much good in the years that she did have.
Tuesday, March 11, 2008
from: Mary Ann Kropp
comments: Dearest Kate:

Happy 60th Birthday. It's hard to believe my 'baby'
sister is 60 years old today. I know how you loved
parties, and loved to party, so today on this very
special 60th birthday we would party from dawn till
dusk. I miss you very much. Love you today,
tomorrow and forever. Party on Kate, party on!!!!
Your sister, Mary
Sunday, January 13, 2008
from: Torsten Landschoff
comments: I've read about Kate's passing in the preface of DDPP. My first thought was how one can carry on with writing after this event. I think this is really admirable.

I don't know your other books but in any case I am sure this is the best one you have written. I surmise that you had to divert yourself from your loss by working harder, the extent of your loss showing in this book.

Judging from this quality of DDPP, I get an idea what an amazing person Kate was. My condolences to you and your family. I am sure her energy is still driving forward many of you...
Friday, October 19, 2007
from: Kim Bikle
email: kimbikle at hotmail.com
comments: Mr. and Mrs. Wakerly would leave me in charge of their brood while they would go out and about on the town. Many nights they were out very late at a concert and I would get a bit nervous when odd sounds came from outside. Quite often I would fall asleep on the couch in the breezeway t.v. room only to be woken up by ominous footsteps, the sound of keys, then Mrs. Wakerly would sing, "buglers!"

When I think of the sound of her voice, I find that I mostly remember her saying funny things like, "buglers!, Moooooey!, Burly!, What's new on Hedgerow Court?"

Her upbeat, unconditional love was a gift. I miss her.
Friday, April 6, 2007
from: Mary Ann Kropp
email: gma at swfla.rr.com

A person who is remembered never dies. And so
today, on the third anniversary of your death I find
myself thinking constantly of you. I have so many
wonderful memories of the times we've shared and
for this I am thankful. It's a lonesome world without you. I miss you very much.
Your sister, Mary
Sunday, March 11, 2007
from: Mary Ann Krop
email: gma at swfla.rr.com
comments: March 11, 2007

Happy 59th birthday Kate.

Always remembered
Always loved

Miss you very much. Your sister Mary
Wednesday, April 5, 2006
from: mary ann kropp
email: gma at swfla.rr.com
comments: Kate:

Today, April 5, 2006, is the second anniversary of your death. Hardly a day passes that you are not in my thoughts. I'm thankful for the years we've had together, but life is lonesome without you.

You left us a legacy of love.

Always in my heart, your sister Mary
Saturday, March 11, 2006
from: Mary Ann Kropp
email: gma at swfla.rr.com
comments: Dear Kate:

Today is your 58th birthday. I think of you every day - and I miss you so very much. Life is not the same without you and never will be. I just want to say Happy Birthday - and I'll always love you.

Your sister, Mary
Friday, May 27, 2005
from: Michael Grimaldi
email: mgrimaldi at earthlink.net
comments: I heard of Kate's passing some weeks ago but only today had the opportunity to learn the details. Kate was perhaps my best mentor in college when she was editor of the Marquette Tribune and I was a student photographer and journalism student trying to figure out how best to apply my talents. I ended up spending 15 years in the newspaper business, and I owe much of my success in that field to Kate's inspiration to me in college.

I regret we did not keep in touch, but I shall always cherish our friendship and the wonderful influence she had on my career.
Tuesday, April 5, 2005
from: Mary Ann Kropp
email: gma at swfla.rr.comm
comments: Dearest Kate: A year ago today God called you home. It has been a very sad and lonesome year for me. I miss you so very much. You will live forever in my heart.

Your loving sister, Mary
Friday, March 11, 2005
from: Mary Ann Kropp
email: gma at swfla.rr.com
comments: Kate, today is your 57th birthday and I miss you more than imaginable. The hole in my heart will never mend, and I really don't want it to. Tonite your family and friends will be gathering for a celebration of your life. What a wonderful tribute to a wonderful person. I know how you love parties, so I know you will be with all of them in spirit. Happy Birthday, Kate. Thanks for all the wonderful memories and times shared as sisters. I'll always love you. Mary
Wednesday, October 6, 2004
from: Debbie Moreau
email: dlmoreau318 at comcast.net
comments: It is hard to believe that it has been six months since our very sad time. I can now write some of my memories on a lighter note, which is how I chose to remember such a special person. No matter how much time has passed there will never be anything except a smile and laughter as I remember Kate.

We have so many great and fun memories from the time that we lived in California. Moving out to Los Gatos was so much easier knowing that family was just around the corner. Kate made sure we knew where everything was in the area, made sure we were included in so many of the Wakerly parties. We loved the Mother's Day brunches... any time the guys do the cooking and wait on you has to be a good time! Kate's idea, right? Kate is the definition of hospitality, of making you feel so welcome, always so glad to see you or talk to you. Her sense of humor was the best... some of our conversations left us both in tears we would laugh so hard. So sorry, Randy and John, it could have been at your expense at times, but certainly all in good fun. I am grateful that I will always think of Kate any time I clean out my refrigerator... she would know what that means. Funny stuff. And then it was nice to know that at the end of our California stint, we were not only cousins, but neighbors as well. I knew I would miss Kate when we moved back, but I didn't realize how much. I was so glad when you would come back for the "Christmas parties". Never enough time, though, not like walking down the street for some spur of the minute "family fun" or a stroll through the new park.

And now on a more serious note...Kate was an amazing person who gave so much to those less fortunate. And she did it so quietly! We have been created to add to life on earth. Mother Teresa once said, "Holy living consists in doing God's work with a smile." I think she was talking about Kate. How wonderful to have made such a difference on this earth.

We still miss you, Kate!

Debbie, Randy, Adam, Ryan & Erin Moreau
Tuesday, August 24, 2004
from: Jim Schachner
email: Ravmastr at aol.com
comments: Having met Kate adn John through our cousins Terry and Joe, I truly enjoined time with this remarkable woman. I shared a common bond with Kate for the short time I spent with her, having gone through Cancer myself. But mine was minor compared to hers and I marveled at the strength and positive outlook she had during some very trying times. I know whe will be missed by all and I often think of her and say a few prayers that she might be as happy in heaven as she was on earth. My deepest sympathy to all her family and friends.
Saturday, June 26, 2004
from: Marlene Zychowicz
email: MZycho at aol.com
comments: I went to high school with Kate, and we sure had a good time. We often traveled to and from school together, so we had a lot of time to talk, or detour on our way home for any number of adventures. I remember laughing a lot. Kate was a much more serious student than I ever was but she was very tolerant of my views; she probably didn't realize at that time that I learned a lot from her about how to handle school and still have fun. There were so many fun times, both in school and in the neighborhood, but here are a few. I especially remember Spanish class with her, with our funny pronounciations of those new words. We would sing "Alla En El Rancho Grande" until people probably wanted to hit us. We also had a wonderful time in Sociology class,where we always had our own particular slant on whatver the teacher was trying to teach. We were a handful for poor Ms. Mentus. Kate just laughed her head off about my sympathy for the Indians, and she frequently ended letters to me with "Yay Indian!", a phrase from one of my term papers. And of course, the famous incident of the old man telling me to take my dog Bonnie in the house where she could "shit in the kitchen." We never got over that one, either. Here's something that I don't think Kate even realized: She was the only friend who picked up on my father's nickname for me, Marzie, and she called me that. I have never let anyone else use that name, and I don't tell it to anyone, because it is so special to me. However, I did always let Kate use it, so Kate and my Dad are the only two who did. We continued to stay in touch through the years, and began e-mailing in 1999, when I was diagnosed with breast cancer, a year after Kate. I'm sure no one will be surprised to know that Kate was extremely helpful to me throughout my ordeal. She shared feelings, suggested readings, answered questions, and mainly, just let me know that she was there and understood. We continued our e-mail correspondence since then for as long as she could, so I knew of her further diagnoses. I felt so fortunate to be able to have dinner with Kate and John when they visited Las Vegas last year. I was in Chicago over Memorial Day weekend, and visited Kate's grave. She is in my heart and prayers always.
Thursday, June 24, 2004
from: Wayne Barr
comments: Dear John,

My family and I offer our condolences to you and yours. We've been out of touch for too many years to remember, but you and Kate will be in our prayers.

Sincerely yours,

Wayne, Sylvia, and Sam Barr

Monday, June 21, 2004
from: Paul Lisiak
email: plisiak at metvp.com
comments: John,

I was sorrowed to hear about "Aunt" Kate. Kate was a kindred spirit. She was someone that never took life too seriously, but still had great appreciation and understanding of the important things that mattered. While I always loved being around her as a child, I truly admired the larger-than-life quality in her during my visits to California as an adult. It is probably safe to say that she experienced more enjoyment and love in her life than most people would be lucky to receive in two or three lifetimes! An even better quality she possessed was an unselfish ability to remind and inspire those people around her to enjoy their lives. No matter how good or bad of a mood I was feeling before visiting with Kate, I always felt uplifted after spending time with her.

Tuesday, June 8, 2004
from: Bernadette (Kuhn) Benz
comments: I knew Kate at Notre Dame High School for Girls in Chicago, Illinois - our class of 1966. I especially remember her quick mind, great wit and burning enthusiasm for EVERYTHING she did. Her eyes sparkled as she talked. We all knew that Kate was the "most likely to succeed" - and most deserving.

And so, it was a sad shock to learn of her passing in the Notre Dame H.S. alumni newsletter. I am so happy that she was able to realize many dreams in her life, including running a newspaper. That particular destiny was evident even in high school, where she was, of course, the very able editor of our school paper. Some people are simply unforgetable and Kate was truly one of them. As it turns out, I was living in the Bay Area 1969-1974 and wish our paths had crossed again.
Sunday, June 6, 2004
from: Bob O'Hagan
email: rohagan at innovationengines.com
comments: My memories of Kate go back to my grad school days at Stanford where John was my advisor. John must have been the type of kid who brought home stray animals; as an advisor, he was always bringing home stray graduate students. Kate never seemed surprised or upset by extra people showing up at odd times, in fact I think she showed up at school to meet us just so these people would not be strangers the next time she saw them at home, which was inevitable. Kate's hospitality will remain forever with me.
Thursday, May 27, 2004
from: Kevin Fong
email: kfong at mayfield.com
comments: John, you and I have crossed paths and worked together for so many years. The most ironic in the week before Kate's passing.

Over the 28 years that I have watched your family I've admired how happy, positive, grounded, and stable you all have been. Watching Kate go through her struggles did not change that. Managing during her passing did not change that nor do I think it will change one bit going forward.

What I've learned from you is that it is your spirit and faith which carried you through all of this. And it is Kate's spirit that will continue to be with all of you. She was an amazing person as part of an amazing family.
Saturday, May 8, 2004
from: Pat and Mike Flynn
email: flynn at ee.stanford.edu
comments: We were in London visiting with our new grandson when we heard the sad news of Kate's death. A flood of memories came back as the reality sank in. No more that friendly hello and chat outside church. No more the smiling voice and unhurried manner on the phone. That sunny smile which brightened the day for everyone was gone. We were truly bereft of the joy she managed to share in all her activities.

It's not easy to recall her effortless grace in the care and feeding of friends at parties, christenings and other festivities because now they must become memories. Her activities and enthusiasms which reflected so well the woman she was will continue to inspire us although she'll surely be missed.

Kate, we're all better for having shared your company.
Monday, April 26, 2004
from: Laurie (Sipolt) Pollay
email: lPollay at aol.com
comments: I never met Kate, however, I new John Wakerly from the time he was born. His mother Carm Wakerly and I have been friends for 63 years and from the time of Kate and John's wedding, Carm always stated she loved Kate so much - that she was like a daughter to her. I know Kate must have loved her as well. What a joy Kate was to her mother-in-law.
I am so saddened at your loss John, of your beloved wife and Carm and Ralph's loss of their "other daughter".
My children and Carm & Ralph's children grew up together, and we shared many celebrations together. And now we share sadness.
The sadness is magnified because my son Nick passed away that same week as Kate and his funeral was in the Chicago suburbs the day after Kate's burial in Chicago.
Both Kate and Nick had suffered long, painful illnesses bravely and with courage. Nick's holy card stated: "God knew you were suffering. He knew you were in pain - He knew you would never get well on earth again. He closed your weary eyelids, and whispered "Peace be thine."
Dearest John, your comforting letter to me stated what your priest told you on Kate's last morning...."She doesn't need your prayers - she'll be in heaven praying for us."
I offer my deepest sympahty to you John and your family for your loss and our family's loss for Nick. Now we have an even stronger connection between the families, because we not only share grief, but joy in knowing our loved ones are finally free from pain and are home again.
Sunday, April 25, 2004
from: Debbie Ford-Scriba
email: dfordscriba at att.net
comments: I have recently returned from a trip to China (which Kate would have loved), and learned of her passing just yesterday. I met Kate during the decade I spent at the Palo Alto Weekly, during which time the Voice was acquired by Embarcadero Publishing Co. I also knew of her philanthropic work through the YWCA of the Mid-Peninsula. It is not lost on me that Kate's six-year struggle to survive cancer mirrored the timeline our Board endeavored to save the agency, and that the sale of the building was announced the week she died. I think Kate would be pleased to know that the YW's mission of empowering women and eliminating racism will live on through a donor advised fund at The Women's Foundation, even as her legacy will be the love, humor and community-building efforts of her amazing family and her own philanthropic work in Mountain View and around the world.

Tuesday, April 20, 2004
from: John Rinaldi
email: jfrinaldi at aol.com
comments: Last week my family and I visited Maui and somehow the parrots, cockatiels, and other birds poised for a "photo- op" in a Lahaina streetscene looked familiar somehow. It wasn't until we returned and I saw the glowing photo in this memorial that I connected the dots to the beautiful pictures displayed during the evening service at Spangler's. The birds are doing well,John, and I struggle with words to properly gauge Kate's loss. I do know this, her remarkable sense of humor sure got a kick out of seeing me puzzle over those birds! God Bless, John Rinaldi.
Monday, April 19, 2004
from: Amy Renalds
comments: I admired Kate from the moment I met her. We had an automatic "connection" that carried itself throughout the short time I knew her. After her many meetings at the Palo Alto Weekly (most of which where she was the ONLY female), she would stand by my desk and let out a big sigh. She would chuckle and say that the meetings needed more female energy; I think she represented us pretty well. I know how important her fmaily was to her as we talked often about family and "the important things in life". She will be remembered for so many great things; I am lucky to have known her.
Monday, April 19, 2004
from: A friend in Chicago
comments: To all things family and Church, charitable activities (no doubt much more than noted), proactive journalism, to friendships near and far, Kate nourished her world with boundless gifts. From John, their kids, their extended family, their philanthropy, their best friends, their remote associates, their 50,000 frequent flyer miles, their boating, their concerts, their CDís and DVDís, their pizza and their sliders, Kate nourished herself with boundless appreciation. Devastated for too long, cut far too short, a full life nonetheless. An inspiration to us all. If more love and devotion could flow to and from any other couple, than from the mere fingertips onto the keyboards of Kate and John, then this world needs to hear about it. As it is, we are extremely fortunate for the example of life from this woman, this marriage.
Saturday, April 17, 2004
from: Amarjit Gill
email: agill at pasemi.com
comments: I just read eulogy on line. I only met Kate once at their house for breakfast.
I felt like I have known her for a long time. She told us about the school in Nigeria. At that moment, I really felt her love and compassion for underprivileged kids around the globe.
That was a very touching moment for me since I also come from very humble beginning in India.

The migrant worker , who spoke during lunch on behalf of laborers, really expressed Kate's love for humanity.

Kate will be missed by many people around the globe. God bless her soul.
May God bless you and family with strength , courage and happiness in life.
Saturday, April 17, 2004
from: glenn inn
email: glenninn at yahoo.com
comments: Kate was such a giving person. I remember back in the days at Stanford how she would be there when we had grading parties.

As Gina, then Michael, then Susie were born, Kate's natural focus then shifted to the children. She was such a caring mother.

Even during the boat rides on the bay, I could feel that sense of safety and caring when she sat next to me.

The world has lost a good person, but in spirit she lives deeply in our hearts and minds
Thursday, April 15, 2004
from: Joseph J. Shake
email: joe at contvend.com
comments: Even though John, Kate and the kids are family, we never really had the chance to see them or get close due to them living in California and us in Chicago. However, about 4 years ago Teri (my wife) wanted to take a trip to see her cousin in San Jose and of course John and Kate in Mountain View, thus we did. It was truly a great time for all of us and Kate's generosity and kindness was second to none. From that year forward it was an annual event to see them each Summer.

Kate, you will forever be in my family's hearts and prayers and your eternal smile will never be forgotten. We all will miss you, but we are truly blessed to have had the chance to know you and love you. Your gift of making everyone you meet feel as though they've known you forever was so endearing and always made us feel that you were an angel on earth. Now, God has taken you back home to be his angel in Heaven.

John, whether you like it or not, my family will still come to see you. Our prayers are with you.

Love always,

Joe, Teri, Joe and Bill Shake

Wednesday, April 14, 2004
from: Lori Anderson
email: oxfordmom2000 at yahoo.com

My father was always so proud of Aunt Kate. He spoke often of all the wonderful things she has done. When my father was nearing the end, I was so grateful of her presence at the hospital. In our time of sorrow she was able to make us laugh with her memories of my dad. In her own sorrow of losing her brother she still put the needs of others before her own and comforted the rest of us. I will never forget that.

I did not get to see Aunt Kate very often due to the distance, but I will always remember her energy, vibrance, and sincere caring and interest in others.

I have a photo of her and I dancing together when I was very young. I don't remember the occasion. It was one of my Grandma's favorite photos. I will always cherish this, and I look at it often.

I regret putting off our family vacation to California. We had talked of it often. I regret that she never got to meet our youngest, Riley, her godchild.

Wednesday, April 14, 2004
from: Helen Cannella
email: hicannella at mail.utexas.edu
comments: When my mother, brother, and I moved to Mountain View after my mother and step-father married, I was nine and nervous about moving to a place filled with strangers. I was lucky enough to move into the house across the street from the Wakerly's and to have the opportunity to basically grow up with Gina (who is only a year younger than me) and her family.

I have fond memories of summer days spent in the pool and sliding down that yellow slide, of winter trips to the mountains, of dinners and sleep overs. Most importantly, though, each memory I have is full of love and happiness. To your entire family, I will be eternally grateful.

I will always remember Kate for her love of life, her laughter, her acceptance of me, and her unending love of her family.

Thank you for the memories. Love, Helen

Wednesday, April 14, 2004
from: Alex King
email: alex at rcking.com
comments: I wish I could have been there for the services but I was occupied with college. Kate always made everyone laugh and made everything extremely fun and enjoyable, creating forever lasting memories of "Family Fun." I will miss her unique intoxicating excitement for life. There was never a dull moment with Kate nearby. My heart and thoughts go out to her family. She will be missed always.
Tuesday, April 13, 2004
from: Ron Surma
email: vbguy78 at yahoo.com
comments: Although I have only known Kate a few years, I have known her as one of the most positive and energetic people I have ever met. The best of wishes to John and the kids.
Tuesday, April 13, 2004
from: Mary Virgilio, RN
email: mary-beth_rn at sbcglobal.net
comments: It was an honor and privilege to care for Kate. I am so very grateful to her wonderful family for opening their home and allowing me to intrude on their private time. Kate was surrounded by love, that was so very apparent in the photographs and the kitchen giggles they shared with me. The time was very brief, but I feel very honored to have know this lady who always had a smile despite her obvious discomfort. Gina and Susie and Mike-your medicine was better than any I gave and John, your gentle attention filled the gaps in my very meager care. Hug her memory close; I know I will.
Tuesday, April 13, 2004
from: Nancy Lutzow
email: nlutzow at aol.com
comments: I first met Kate and John back in 1978, I think it was. My friend Nancy and I were new arrivals to Mountain View (from Wisconsin), and we joined Kate's Amnesty International group. It wasn't long before we realized that we lived only a block or so away from them, and being young and so far away from home as we were, Kate and John "adopted" us. They welcomed us into their family - we babysat for the "voles", pet-sat for their animals, and joined them for many family events and get-togethers. I will always have such fond memories of our times with them, especially of the Christmas Eve gatherings..... (I'll never forget Kate's father's incredulousness at the "toe dancer" during the Christmas Eve Mass at St. Ann's!). Over the years we all somewhat drifted apart, though not intentionally. It was just our lives growing and changing and getting busier all the time. But I still always felt close to them Ė even if it was just waving at John as I jogged by their house, and exchanging the annual Christmas cards. A couple of years ago, they came to my wedding, and last year my husband and I attended Gina's wonderful wedding celebration. There was talk of Kevin and I joining them on their boat for an afternoon, but it just never happened. I so wanted them to get to know him better, and I wanted him to know them. Time passed -- too quickly as it always does. Then, last Tuesday I opened up the newspaper to happen upon Kate's obituary. I was stunned beyond words... beyond belief... I am so sorry that I did not know... I wish that I could have been of some assistance... some support. I wish I could have had the chance to tell her how much she and John and the kids meant to me. So, I'm telling her now.

Kate, you were so warm and welcoming, so easygoing and cheerful and giving. Your laugh still rings in my ears. You were such a marvel at motherhood! I always admired the way you juggled your career and your humanitarian activities, but still always kept your family first and foremost. No school activity was too insignificant, and no downtown parade was too small. I will miss you very much, but I will be forever grateful for having had the opportunity to know you and John and the kids. You have left behind a legacy in your journalism and charitable works, but most of all in those three amazing young people about to make their own marks on this world. Rest well, Kate, you done good.

Tuesday, April 13, 2004
from: Eve Bennett-Wood and Sam Wood
email: eve at msr.com
comments: While Sam has known John from work since the mid-70's at BNR, Eve met them after being engaged to Sam in 1987. The first time she came to their house, Michael was on the front porch modifying some weapon, the house tour was punctuated with vaguely ominous advice such as "don't step there" and "shut the door quick or the animals will get in" and Susie was small enough to be cuddling on John's lap. It was a picture of perfectly chaotic domestic bliss and Kate was the eye of calm in the hurricane that is the Wakerly family.

Perhaps since Eve was also something of a writer and journalist, or perhaps that they're both smart women who prefer nerdy men; maybe it was because Eve totally understood Kate's delaying going to the hospital when in labor so that she could finish watching "Battlestar Galactica." For whatever reason, they hit it off right away. We are only sorry that we did not have more time to spend with Kate. She gave life her all and we are happy we got to know her. She and John had a special way of letting guests know when it was time to go, in loud unison they'd state "Please leave." Sadly, Kate has left and everyone was wishing "Please stay."
Monday, April 12, 2004
from: Terry (Lindt) MIller
email: tmmiller at gci.net
comments: Living in Alaska, I just learned of Kate's death on Easter morning. It's hard to imagine what to say.

Kate was a junior when I was a freshman at Marquette in the Paleozoic Era. (Kate was taking German and called me Katze and told me if she ever got a cat, she would name it after me.) I still remember the day she and John (the Good Ram) became engaged (Sept. 17, 1969!) I was a bridesmaid in August 1970 -- the first non-family wedding I had every been in -- and a visit to Kate and John in Palo Alto (and Terrikins the Cat!) was the first vacation I ever took alone.

My husband Tom and I later visited Kate and John in Mountain View. We were just naturally incorporated into the family life -- watched the Blue Angels, had a barbecue in the yard, watched Kate work her magic. She had a way of knowing that each day was important in people's lives, and helping us see through her eyes how wonderful our own lives were, just by virtue of being alive.

One of her many gifts was she made every single person feel special and important. What a gift. She is one of those people who should always be there and I'm having a difficult time imagining that she isn't.

Knowing how even those of us who haven't seen her for years (but who heard from her without fail at least every year) will miss her, I can only imagine the depth of loss John, Gina, Mike and Susie are feeling.

But it's also apparent they know how blessed they were to be part of her wonderful life. Just know that we all felt lucky, too. It's not just that she was your wife or mom that you feel that way about her -- she really was one of the great ones. We are all lucky, every one of us who knew her.
Sunday, April 11, 2004
from: Debbie Bidinger-Gerlinger-Ghannadan
email: dghannadan at aol.com
comments: I met Kate while Mike and my Sarah were classmates at Saint Joseph's. We became friends and she helped me tremendously during an illness while our kids were in the 6th grade. An adventure home with Kate,kids and Shamrock were somehow magical to Sarah after school.
I felt a warmness from her that I will never forget. Kate was and still is a shining star!
My deepest heartfelt expression of sympathy goes out to John, Gina, Mike and Susie. Blessings to you --
Sunday, April 11, 2004
from: Karen Usas
email: kusas at cox.net
comments: This world has lost a special wife, mother and friend whose many efforts at improving lives of others will be long remembered. We feel blessed to have walked with Kate on a part of her journey and shared some important milestones. We send John, GIna, Michael and Susie our love and wish you God's blessings and comfort. Peace - Karen and Alan
Sunday, April 11, 2004
from: Kurt and Frieda Wolf
email: wolfpack at webtv.net
comments: I worked with Carm at the Doings Newspaper for many years and she always talked lovingly about Kate.....I know she will be missed.
Sunday, April 11, 2004
from: Kathy Gaens
comments: Kate and I met on Gina and Laura's first day on the ND campus. It was so wonderful to meet another mom as nervous as I about seeing our daughters on the adventure of their lives. As John and Ron did the dad construction thing we got to know each other a little. I am only sorry that I did not get to know her better. Your family will be in our pryers as you mourn her loss.
Sunday, April 11, 2004
from: Jean-Pierre and Elsbeth Steger, Switzerland
email: jpe.steger at datacomm.ch
comments: How can we find words in this situation? Our thoughts of sympathy and prayers go to you John and to Gina, Mike and Susie in view of the loss of Kate.

We did not meet often, but when we did on your trips to Switzerland, we always had a good time. Be it in our home town Bern at a parsley game or in April 2001, when you visited us up in the Alps. That time, the weather was so bad with fog and snowfall, that Kate kept wondering whether we were on an expedition with Sir Hillary ...

Our close thoughts to you John and to your children overcome the geographical distance that separates us from you. Be certain that we will keep Kate in our hearts as a joyous person with a fine humour.

Jean-Pierre and Elsbeth
Saturday, April 10, 2004
from: Federico Del Valle
email: fededvm at hotmail.com
comments: I didnt knew this lady, but I know the inspiration and strenght that gave to those who were near to her. Look Jonh Wakerly and his admired work, you are luky Mr. John of sharing your time with a lady that inspires so much. Im with you in your pain.
Saturday, April 10, 2004
from: Candice Shih
email: cshih at mv-voice.com
comments: I still puzzle over how I ended up in journalism after studying astronomy in college. While my career path feels somewhat accidental, my relationship with Kate does not seem so. She always made me feel more secure about myself as a person and as a journalist.

The day the previous Voice editor Justin Scheck announced he was leaving and encouraged me, then a reporter, to apply to take his place, the first person I called was Kate.

I barely knew what I was doing in this field, let alone whether I was the right person to become the editor. But Kate displayed the confidence I needed to make that step; soon, I felt confident, too. It's obvious to me that her influence is a big reason I have flourished at the Voice.

The last time I talked to Kate, she said, "I'm sad I'm not there to play with you!" I am very much too.
Friday, April 9, 2004
from: Mary Ann Kropp
email: rustyfl at earthlink.net
comments: Kate, I was there the day you were born and I was there the day you died - and a part of me died that day. My life will never be the same without you. I so wanted to tell you once again that I love you, to give you a kiss and to hug you just one more time - but God called you home just a few hours before I arrived. Today you are in heaven with Mom, Dad and our brother Edward. Mary
Thursday, April 8, 2004
from: charlotte
email: holycharlotte at yahoo.co.uk
comments: I have been lucky enough to have known Kate for just over one year, and in that time she made me feel incredibly welcome in her home and in her family. She took me in at Thanksgiving and Christmas, and even took me on a cruise, i hope she knew how much i appreciated her and everything she has done for me while i have been here.
Thursday, April 8, 2004
from: John Novotny
comments: Alone while on business in San Francisco last April, she and John welcomed me like family, taking me out on the Bay for a lazy Sunday afternoon cruise. I always will recall fondly our wonderful time together, her warm hospitality and gentle smile. She had an incredible gift that simply by being with her made one a better human being. I will miss her.
Thursday, April 8, 2004
from: Jo Shake
email: darjo77 at msn.com
comments: My dearest niece, Kate...
I will miss you, and I will see your smiling face before me, forever. I thank God for making you a part of my life, and especially for allowing me to spend so many warm, endearing moments with you in California. The picnics on the "Party of Five" will always stand out. Love you, Aunt Jo
Thursday, April 8, 2004
from: Michael P. Shake
email: mshake at usg.com
comments: I have a hard time expressing my feelings over this tragic loss. Our sincerest sympathy goes out to John and the kids. Kate will truly be missed but we are all better to have known her and I am grateful for that.


Mike, Linda, Michael, and David Shake
Thursday, April 8, 2004
from: Sarah Miller
email: grilinger at ucsc.edu
comments: I was Sarah Gerlinger when she knew me, a classmate of Mike's. While my mom was working and ill with cancer, Kate relieved her stress by picking me up from school everyday and even took me to TCBY, and McDonalds with her own children. We were in some sort of untouchable club in that minivan, protected by Kate, and I will always be grateful to the goodwill she showed me in my youth. Mike and I still have laughs about the good old days, all thanks to Kate.
Wednesday, April 7, 2004
from: mike wakerly
email: mike at wakerly.com
comments: When I started kindergarten at St. Williams, I had a rough day. My mom was very fond of this story.

When I came home from school on that first day, she asked, "How was your day, Michael?".

"Terrible!", I pouted.

"Nobody likes me, the teacher is mean, and I had spicy milk!"

Taken aback, she said after a while, "Well... I'm not sure what I can do about the other things, but tell me about the spicy milk." She never did figure out what "spicy" milk was, but it was fixed the next day.

She was always looking out for me and I'll miss her so very much.